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Part 2: Vulnerability is beautiful...

  • Writer: Julian Nel
    Julian Nel
  • Apr 30, 2022
  • 2 min read

What a contradictory piece of beauty vulnerability is.

Not because it is either or, but because it is a key element we strive for others to have, but we refuse to show even the slightest hint of it. I am most certainly guilty of such a double standard.


Honestly vulnerability scares me quite a bit. The idea of someone seeing me in a raw emotional state scares me. The idea of letting my guard down haunts me. The idea of destroying the little prison cell keeping my worries in taunts me from behind my left ear. The idea of relying on someone to guide me makes me feel slightly useless in a sense. The idea of having a shoulder to cry on makes me feel fragile, unstable, and needy…


Which is unfair because I want to see you in your raw emotional state. I want you to let your guard down. I want you to abolish that little prison cell keeping your worries in. I want you to rely on me as a guide in life. I want to be the shoulder that you cry on. I want you to tell me everything.


How unfair is that? Expecting others to do what I cannot do myself.

What I have come to notice is that I get sucked into a dangerous cycle of numbing out my vulnerability, which in exchange numbs my happiness, joy, and excitement for the simple beautiful things that life has to offer.


Honestly though it is our own doing as a human race…

If you cry, you get told not to cry, instead of what is wrong?

If you need help, you get told to figure it out, instead of how can I help you?

The list goes on and on and on and on…for every command instead of a question, the wall blocking out vulnerability has another brick cemented into it. Everything about vulnerability is seen as some negative form of emotion…yet we claim for it to be beautiful.


Which it most certainly is. Showing vulnerability shows that you have self-worth, it shows your authentic self. There is nothing more beautiful than seeing an authentic person. Vulnerability opens the window for a safe space for others for others to climb through. Vulnerability is contagious.


Vulnerability will always be embedded in our nature; it is the bridge between people. We function off of emotions, so why numb it? Ignore it? Hate on it? Why treat it as a parasite?


Why try and demolish something so Beautiful?

Isn’t some form of beauty what we all want?


Vulnerability is beautiful...

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